In The Friendship Project

WINE 2018 Summer Book Club

The Friendship Project: The Catholic Woman’s Guide to Making and Keeping Fabulous, Faith-Filled Friends

The Friendship Project WINE Summer Book Club Chapter 3 - Friends Reflect Cultivating Charity. Do you have a friend that helped you cultivate a spirit of Charity in your life?

Cultivating Charity

Kindness is how we began; we met and formed our friendship in charity.

Rita needed to drop out of a course Carol was teaching and came to tell her, charitably, personally. Rita apologized that a sudden trip would cause her to miss three classes. But Carol felt that she had to fulfill her promise to help Rita get the course credit she needed.

So, Carol responded: why not change a few details of Rita’s assignment and enrich the rest of the students experience at the same time?

And Rita’s travel assignment: a report and presentation on the Catholic Church in China, was enhanced by a surprise travel companion – a priest going home to China after escaping 50 years prior to visit his older sister he hadn’t seen since then was on the same trip!

His personal experience past and present was a tremendous resource to Rita!! And everyone in the class benefited by our small charity to each other. What happens when charity is practiced? Others are drawn in!


Friends Reflect

When developing the WINE companion journal for The Friendship Project, 

we thought it would be fun to include reflections on each chapter written by friends.

Our friend-pairs collaborated in their writing and share inspiring, heart-warming, and Spirit-led reflections.

This is a portion of the inspiring reflection by Carol Younger and Rita Schillin on the virtue of  Charity and friendship found in The Friendship Project companion journal, available only through WINE. Purchase here:

***Proceeds benefit the non-profit work of WINE ministry. 




Carol Younger is a Senior Fellow for the St. Paul Center for Biblical Theology, on the Advisory Board Member for The Great Adventure Bible Studies, author of Listening and Study Guides for biblical and theological presentations through St. Joseph Communications and the Retreat Companion for 33 Days to Morning Glory through Marian Press. An accomplished leader in public and private education and a popular adjunct professor at an evangelical Christian university in Southern California, Carol is active in many parish ministries, including RCIA and Catechetical training.

Rita Schillin  is a former coordinator of RCIA in Divine Savior Parish. She is currently the Coordinator of RCIA and Adult Confirmation in St. Clare’s Parish, Roseville CA. Rita is a member of the diocesan RCIA Team, Facilitator for the Diocesan Lay Mission Project, and Master Catechist in Sacramento Diocese, CA.


Friendship in Action

What experiences have you had with friends helping you cultivate the virtue of charity in your life?  Have you been on the cultivating end of the friendship?

Share in comments below!



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  • Karen Sheehy

    Love this Carol and Rita. I so enjoyed being on WINE and Shrine Pilgrimage with you both last year and also seeing your beautiful friendship in action. Your love of each other and the Lord is inspiring.

  • Allison Gingras

    My bible study group read your reflection last night, we were most inspired by how you continue to Skype to keep connected and share your faith journey, and hold each other in prayer. Beautiful friendship!!!

    As a side note, when we were in China adopting, we tried to go to Mass. It was one of the things I looked forward to. The only Church close to our hotel was bolted shut. We were all so disappointed. So hopeful Catholicism will find a special place in China someday!!

  • Mary Gispert

    So happy to be a part of the Friendship Project! My friends have helped to cultivate friendships 7,000 miles away in Uganda. Six years ago, our parish of St. Catherine of Siena hosted a visiting Priest from Uganda. Through his stories, the Holy Spirit prompted me to do something to help him with his dream of building a nursery school in the remote village of Olwiyo. It didn’t know what or how to help him, but with the help of friends our little school is in it’s fifth year and St. John the Evangelist Church is getting closer to completion. I have made new friends along the way both here and in Uganda. It’s been amazing to see the love/compassion people have and the trust they have in me to carry out this “job” God has given me. So many new lives have entered my life, and I am truly blessed.

    • Allison Gingras

      Mary, what an amazing story!!!!! I am so happy you shared it with us. Wow!! JUST WOW!!

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